Wedding etiquette includes being mindful of how much it costs guests to attend
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| Type | Deadline | Notes |
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| Ad Photos & Obituaries | Monday-Friday, 8 AM–5 PM | No exceptions |
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## Wedding Expenses Can Stress Guests and Strain Relationships
*By Adriana Morga, New York (AP)*
Weddings are celebrations of love, but they can also require guests to make significant financial commitments that cause stress. From paying for hotels and flights to destination weddings to multiple outfits and gifts for pre-wedding events, friends and extended family may feel pressure to spend large sums of money before the couple even ties the knot.
This sense of obligation paired with budget constraints can lead to resentment, hurt feelings, and misunderstandings among friends and family.
Future spouses planning their dream wedding, while mindful of their own expenses, may want to consider how costs impact their guests.
“Money is part of how we show up for one another,” says Christine Hargrove, a licensed therapist and assistant director of the Love and Money Center at the University of Georgia. “But don’t let finances get in the way of lifelong friendships or family relationships that are healthy and supportive.”
Hargrove often observes that budgeting issues become friendship issues not only for couples getting married but also for members of the wedding party. While asking someone to be a groomsman or bridesmaid usually expresses appreciation, it can unintentionally overlook the financial burden involved with bachelor or bachelorette parties and the wedding day itself.
“If somebody says, ‘I care about you, I really want to come to your wedding but I absolutely cannot afford five days in the Caribbean on top of already going to a wedding,’ don’t take it personally,” Hargrove advises.
Money conversations are often very emotional, but everyone benefits when these talks are approached with understanding.
“Couples have to keep in mind that people have different budgets, different backgrounds. People have different work responsibilities and capabilities of taking PTO,” says Sarah Schreiber, a former magazine weddings editor turned wedding consultant.
### Recommendations for Couples to Reduce Guests’ Costs
**Book Different Hotel Options**
It’s customary to reserve room blocks at discounted rates for out-of-town guests. Schreiber recommends offering several hotel options at varying price points.
**Offer to Pay for Some Services**
Covering transportation to and from the venue, paying for childcare if children aren’t invited, and hosting a morning-after breakfast can make the wedding more affordable for guests, says Pittsburgh-based wedding planner Cassie Horrell.
**Request “No Gifts”**
Putting a “no gifts” request on the invitations is another way couples can reduce financial burdens, says Rachel Lawrence, head of advice and planning for the budgeting app Monarch Money.
**Be Upfront with Your Wedding Party**
Inform wedding party members in advance about possible expenses for bachelor or bachelorette parties, wardrobe rentals, or makeup. This transparency helps them decide if they can participate without financial strain, says Hargrove.
**Don’t Take It Personally If Guests Can’t Attend**
If someone declines an event or the wedding for financial reasons, respond graciously. Accepting it respectfully reduces relational issues and hurt feelings, Hargrove advises.
### Recommendations for Guests to Manage Wedding Costs
**Share Costs with Friends**
If attending is expensive, consider sharing costs by booking group hotel rooms, couch-surfing, or pooling airport transportation expenses. Esther Lee, a deputy editor and wedding expert for The Knot, recommends this approach.
**Skip Some Events**
With many pre-wedding events, it’s okay to attend only the most meaningful ones to avoid debt, advises financial planner Chelsea Hodl. Communicate openly about which events you can attend.
**Save on Wardrobe**
Cut costs by renting dresses or tuxedos from online services like Rent The Runway, Nuuly, or Black Tux. Alternatively, wear an outfit you already own or borrow one. Lee reassures guests that re-wearing attire is perfectly acceptable.
**Be Transparent with Friends**
Don’t feel ashamed if you can’t afford to attend a wedding. Honest communication helps prevent negative feelings, says Hargrove. Show affection in other ways, such as inviting the couple to dinner or sending flowers.
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*The Associated Press receives support from the Charles Schwab Foundation for educational and explanatory reporting to improve financial literacy. The foundation is independent from Charles Schwab and Co. Inc. The AP is solely responsible for its journalism.*
https://www.twincities.com/2025/10/26/be-well-financial-wellness-wedding-costs/
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